Who cares?
In this age of multiple human issues which have been so generously aired on the social media platforms, I’m driven to ask who really cares? I would suggest that the ever expanding volume of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), the psychiatric handbook of human cognitive and emotional maladies, reflects a species either exposing its multiple flaws or alternatively, losing its resilience and indeed its way and crying out for help.
In actual fact the combined SM platforms have provided the ideal medium and backdrop for illustrating the multiple configurations and permutations of the tortured human psyche. And while there are many decent folk contributing real value in their posts and comments, the SM corridors are for the most part awash with narcissistic rigor in various degrees and guises. Additionally, most are talking and not listening and consequently remain fixed in their limiting beliefs, their comfort zones. In case this doesn’t sufficiently perturb you, let us be reminded also of the malfeasant intent of the dark forces that manipulate through spin and fake news for their own self-interest, often at our expense.
In the face of this tortured species I ask again, who cares? Does anyone care? How do they care? Could they care less? Are they care-free or just riddled with caries? Perhaps they’re just careless?
I have pondered these things and so I share my work in progress. The caring configurations of the human are as convoluted as the species itself. The predominant carer in our midst is the narcissistic driven, secondary gain variant. This variant requires stroking of the ego and the fulfillment of self-interest based conditions. These conditions are best summarized by the five-finger rule: What’s; In; It; For; Me!! It’s about caring for a fee or some other reward, for recognition and/or for a place in Heaven! It is this variant that effectively converted Health Care into the Health Care Industry.
We move on to the next variant, one which is lower on the self-esteem spectrum. Here things can really become a little murky. Caring in this space may reflect guilt that someone else is suffering more than them. Caring also out of fear of retribution because caring is the right thing to do. Additionally there may be an ingrained limiting belief that they were born to serve the needs of others. This may give rise to the chronic care-giver role, one that is fraught with unhappiness and ill health. Finally in this range may arise the schadenfreude variant – the individual that derives personal joy by engaging with the misfortune and wretchedness of others.
At the top end though, we do have genuine carers – all be they somewhat thin on the ground. The genuine carer (GC) is imbibed with an awareness and sensitivity beyond their own self-interest based needs. The essential components required to be a GC are an unsuppressed emotional connection, clarity of perception, the confidence to take ownership and responsibility for own words and actions and the ideal to contribute value – to make something better than it was before engaging with it. In this variant we have the most evolved of our species. These are our innovators, our mentors and our visionary leaders. It is not coincidental that they also experience the best of health and meaningful longevity – for in their empathic support of others they secrete their own life-enhancing juices.
Perhaps there is sense then in toning down those narcissistic and self-interest based distractions and begin again to smell the roses. And among the roses there may well be some being that requires a little help and care. Right there and then a journey may commence to regaining full GC status – the variant which after all is our birthright.
Copyright reserved - Ian Weinberg 2019
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Ian Weinberg
4 years ago #19
I agree with that Harvey. To develop self-awareness based purely on the perceived consequences of the interaction of self with the prevailing social environment may not be universally authentic. To transcend this reactive awareness one would need to embrace clarity across multiple contexts thereby diluting out prevailing limiting beliefs. Self awareness then becomes more authentic as it integrates the greater order of things.
Ali Anani
4 years ago #18
I responded in a private message
Harvey Lloyd
4 years ago #17
I am a well renowned butcher of the kings english. My english teacher of 12th grade gave me the extra points i needed to graduate. Not because he liked me, but rather he new i would be in his class again the next year. He looked into his social mirror and new it would be better if i were not in it. Social reflection is comparative by nature, self reflection is typically redemptive and the two side by side is destructive. When we self reflect we should be reaching beyond the social mirror to grab a reflection that is durable. Durable enough to withstand the social reflections that constantly and consistently change.
Ali Anani
4 years ago #16
Harvey Lloyd I questioned the validity of a person to self-reflect if the internal mirror is cracked? I smiled to read from your comment "is driven buy the need". You remind me of making often the same err by intending to write by as buy. Hopefully, we don't write it as bye.
Harvey Lloyd
4 years ago #15
Ian Weinberg
4 years ago #14
This is indeed the very essence of the matter Ken. As I’ve alluded to in previous narrations I’ve come to accept the powerful influences of nurture and the early life narrative that followed. The billion Aussie dollar question is can one create a genuine carer from a non-carer? The jury’s still out on that one. Perhaps real caring emerges when real pain has personally been experienced? Seasons greetings and best wishes to you and yours. And may the awful fires abate.
Ian Weinberg
4 years ago #13
Thanks Jerry. I guess we’ve entered pay back time. Resilience will surely be tested to the max. Still amazes me how we’re unable to evolve as a species. Seasons greetings to you and yours.
Ken Boddie
4 years ago #12
Jerry Fletcher
4 years ago #11
Ian Weinberg
4 years ago #10
Indeed. Thanks Jim. Seasons greetings to you and yours.
Jim Murray
4 years ago #9
Ian Weinberg
4 years ago #8
Garnished with a wee dram🥃
Pascal Derrien
4 years ago #7
Ian Weinberg
4 years ago #6
But sometimes the Karma rides over the Dogma 😂. The Donald of course is the archetype - probably intends making Heaven great again!!
Cyndi wilkins
4 years ago #5
Randall Burns
4 years ago #4
Ian Weinberg
4 years ago #3
Much obliged Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
Ali Anani
4 years ago #2
Ian Weinberg
4 years ago #1
Indeed Kevin. As I've said before - a good laugh with others reminds us that we're all in this together!